Prior to the stories. Prior to the arising of any feeling. Prior to fear. Prior to desire. There is this simple sense of “I”.


It is so intimate and yet, it is enveloped with such mystery.

I used to think I knew who this “I” was.

Now, I am…

Right now, there is the presence of calm.

It is in the background at first — but it’s always there.

Even in the most disorienting times, this background stillness is there.

Similar to how this white space is here behind the words.

Without the white space, there could be no…

Recently, the mind asked:

“What is letting go?”

Over the next couple of days, the sincerity of the question pulled forth greater clarity as to the nature of letting go.

I felt a bit hypocritical, teaching and sharing the power of letting go without being totally clear about it myself.

When expectations dissolve what remains is freedom.

Life is whatever we make of it.

Sometimes, it feels or seems like there is some right and wrong way to be in the world.

There is a path that we should follow and a path that we shouldn’t.

But is there really?

Free Choice

With greater accuracy, it can be said…

With gentleness and ease, anything can be dissolved.

How often in life do we just throw ourselves into fixing, solving, or trying to change something?

And maybe something superficial changes but inside we still don’t feel completely at ease with life.

Each time we act from a place of wanting to change something, we are actually re-enforcing the…

A key to a warm and uplifting relationship.

No matter what, my love for you won’t change.

Imagine yourself hearing and feeling that from someone close in your life. How does it feel? Notice the upliftment. Notice the warmth and sense of “everything is alright” that it generates — even if just a little.

In relationships, we learn…

Hi Nick,

You don’t know me but I know you.

I know you're doing your best and sometimes it feels like that’s not enough. I also know that it is enough.

I know how isolated and alone you feel. How scary things can be. I know that sometimes you shared…

Letting go of wanting to change our partner counter-intuitively is what supports the most positive change for everyone.

Have you ever gotten into an argument where you thought you were right and your partner was convinced they were right? You fight, try to prove your side, and find the holes in their side to gain the satisfaction of being right and winning the argument?

But then, even if…

Why do we feel hurt and threatened? Is immunity possible?

We all feel defensive, vulnerable or threatened at some point. Seldom do we investigate the source of this. We defend ourselves when we feel attacked or threatened in some way. But why do we feel attacked or threatened?

We can only feel attacked or threatened if there is some sort…

Put simply, how do we know?

We live our lives assuming that one day — life will end. But how do we know that?

Death is a great mystery but often, we forget that. We just make the assumption that it ends and live our lives accordingly.

But what if it doesn’t?

When I was 12…

Nick Shibanov

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